Have you always known you were a psychic/medium?
Nope! I spent the first 35 years of my life totally clueless about my psychic and mediumistic abilities. But looking back, I can see signs of my awareness and the path that was to come.
Since I was quite young, I've had a knack for seeing things from other people's perspective and seeing solutions others didn't see. People often confided in me their problems, and I always met them with compassion, empathy, and a creative flair for problem-solving. I talked to "people" who weren't there, called myself a good judge of character, and thought I was simply good at reading body language. I didn't realize others didn't have the same level of intuition and insight as I did.
How did you discover your abilities?
I've heard lots of stories of psychics and mediums who knew they had abilities from early childhood and tried desperately to make it go away. I've also heard tales of people "opening up" following accidents, injuries, and near-death experiences. My story isn't like theirs. Not at all!
For me the impetus was the death of my father in 2011; it was a sudden and tragic loss that shook me to the core. Four months after his death I received a phenomenal mediumship reading that got me wondering if I could do it too. I started to read everything I could get my hands on regarding the afterlife, mediumship, and psychic development.
There weren't development groups, psychic schools, or classes in my area at that time, so I began training myself with the help of my spirit family. It wasn't always easy, and there were many difficult and trying times during the early days of my development, but this work has become the source of much joy in my life.
As one of my respected mentors since told me, "Melissa, you can't not do this work. You were born for this."
Could I be psychic or intuitive?
You could be ... and you ARE! The question that remains is what are your talents and how are they meant to be used.
Being psychic is the ability to communicate telepathically either with other spirit entities, with universal consciousness, or with a soul in the spirit world. If you have a soul—and we all do—then you can learn to harness your unique intuitive gifts of soul communication.
Every soul is different, so your abilities and capacities for psychic connection are unique to you. Think of psychic abilities in relation to musical talent: some people have awe-inspiring musical talents, some are so-so but won't ever be professional musicians, and some couldn’t hold a tune if their life depended on it. The same is true for psychic ability; your psychic potential might be likened to the musical talents of Beethoven, or the lady who plays piano at your church, or a pretty good air-guitarist.
Chances are that if you've asked yourself this question, there is something there to be discovered and nurtured. You'll just have to start experimenting to see where it takes you.
Please don't buy into the hype that psychics and mediums have a gift you don't have (some are mighty egotistical about it). You DO have the gift, it is just a question of how prominent it is and if you will work to improve it. One of my great passions is teaching others to tap into their intuitive and psychic abilities. Check my events page for a workshop near you or schedule a private session.
Are in-person sessions better than phone readings?
Nope. It may surprise you to know that a phone reading is every bit as good as an in-person reading. When conducting readings I am serving as a messenger for the spirit world using telepathic communication. Space and time are only concerns in our dimension, so regardless of whether you and I are in the same room or on opposite sides of the globe, your loved ones in spirit, your spirit guides, and angels have the ability to be in both places (and more) at once. I can even connect with your soul psychically from great distances. It's not as impressive as it sounds; it's just the way it works. You can absolutely have a phenomenal session from the comfort of your own home, even if that is across the globe.
Are you actually speaking with my loved one or are they relaying the messages through your spirit guides?
I am actually communicating with your loved ones; I know this because I can feel a change in the energy from one spirit communicator to the next. They have a different energetic vibration and a different personality. So even if I were communicating with two of your loved ones in spirit at the same time (for example a grandmother and grandfather), their energies would be different from each other because their personalities in life were different; they are different souls.
However my spirit guides are instrumental in making the process all go smoothly. They work with your loved ones to help them learn to communicate with/through me. They know what works with me and what doesn’t. They know my frame of reference, my signs and symbols, and they are able to guide your loved ones to convey their intended messages. My spirit helpers are instrumental in the process from start to finish, but it is your loved ones that are driving the interaction; they wouldn't miss an opportunity to connect with you.
Can you read my mind?
Not exactly (but, shhh, don't tell my kids). I read energies and emotions, which means I tune in to your soul personality and the challenges you are currently experiencing. That information is not invasive or intrusive.
I also work with a group of spirit helpers (or as I call them: my spirit family) for insight and understanding. They work with your spirit family to impress upon me just what I need to know to shed light on what is going on in your life.
The information I receive is not invasive or intrusive. If there is something you don't want to talk about, I won't have access to that information. It's as simple as that.
Do you predict the future?
Sometimes. Although I prefer to call it reading the potential for an outcome, and I rely on Spirit to indicate when a reading of possibility and potentiality is appropriate. Sometimes they will provide information about a person's future ... but not always.
As with all information, I trust Spirit to know what is in your best interest to know and what is not. If I receive a prediction, I will share it with you, but I will never make one up to simply to appease a client.
Can you actually see what my loved one looked like?
Yes! And no. And sometimes.
I sometimes see holographic figures in my midst.
Other times when I "see" your loved ones, I am seeing an image that Spirit creates using my psychic senses. In those instances, they use bits and pieces of my memories to put together a complete image for me. Often I will see flashes of a style of clothing, a color/texture of hair, a prominent facial feature, etc. In those cases, I put together the clues like pieces of a puzzle to form as complete a picture as possible.
Why can't I hear my loved ones in spirit?
... Because you're listening with your ears! Our loved ones in spirit communicate differently than we do; they communicate energetically and empathically--not orally. That means you won't hear your loved one's words out loud or see them as a faint figure. It can happen, but it is rare.
Our loved ones in spirit and our spirit helpers communicate in a much more subtle manner; you need only be a little more observant and trusting to recognize it. Typically your loved ones in spirit will simply override your thoughts. This is a tough one to recognize, because we often write this off as our own thought or imagination.
They might also communicate with you by manipulating your physical environment. You may hear a song on the radio that is relevant to your life situation or you may overhear a conversation that somehow applies. You may see a series of signs on the highway that seem to direct your attention to the problem/solution at hand, or you may be bombarded with a word or phrase that keeps reappearing. These are examples of how your loved one calls your attention to anything that will get their point across.
Spirit will find inventive and creative ways to communicate with you ... you only need to pay attention, stop hoping for voices and apparitions, and trust.
Do my loved ones in spirit and my spirit helpers hear me?
Absolutely! People often think they need a medium to tell their loved ones something. But that couldn't be further from the truth. In fact I find our loved ones in spirit know our thoughts and feelings more intimately than we do.
Talking to your loved ones in spirit is as simple as thinking about them. You don't need to speak out loud, do a crazy dance, or carefully script your words. It's as simple as holding an emotion in your heart, and VIOLA!, it is received by your loved one(s).
If you can communicate with my loved one in spirit, does that mean they have not "crossed over" yet?
Absolutely and unequivocally no! It is a myth that spirits can get stuck somewhere between here and the afterlife. There is no in-between. The spirits I communicate with--all spirits actually--are safely and happily in the spirit world. I can also psychically connect with living souls too, but in a slightly different way.
Please do not be fooled by those who would have you believe they are needed to help spirits cross over. There is no such thing as stuck; that is a myth created by crooks and un-educated people and perpetuated by TV dramas. Even if there were a way for a soul to get stuck somewhere (there's not!), the spirit world has more power and knowledge to help a soul transition than any human could ever muster. When we transition into the spirit world, there are countless souls waiting to greet us and make us feel welcome; we don't go it alone.
I cannot emphasize this enough: regardless of the circumstances of your loved one's passing, they are safe, whole, happy, and content in the spirit world from the moment of their passing. Regardless of physical illness or ailments, responsibility for passing, tragic circumstances surrounding the passing, or life choices of the deceased, all souls are welcomed into the spirit world with love and compassion.